LOVE AND CARE

ABUYA SHEIKH IMAM ASHAARI

MUHAMMAD AT-TAMIMI

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Abuya Sheikh Imam Ashaari Muhammad At-Tamimi is the founder and

leader of Darul Arqam, an Islamic jemaah from Malaysia. His intention

is to revive global peace and harmony which is engulfed with various

sorts of crises by implanting and again nurturing love and care amongst

mankind regardless of their ethnic group, religion and country.

In his struggle to restore universal unity, he gives emphasis on the

effort to bring back mankind to his pure instinct that is longing for

goodness and hating badness. He concretely believes that peacefulness,

serenity and harmony will be revived when man has really devoted

themselves to God, the Greatest Creator and live affectionately with one

another.

Abuya Sheikh Imam Ashaari Muhammad At-Tamimi possesses a

grand vision which is accumulated in sixty four books that he wrote,

which covers the whole aspects of life, both the spiritual and physical;

in this world and the Hereafter.

Through darul Arqam, he puts into reality his mind by implementing

an independent living systems which portray Islam as a way of life

to be exemplified by the society.

Besides being the leader to ten thousand followers and millions of

sympathisers in the whole world, he is also a philosopher, economist,

through the struggle of love, care and subtlety, so that a model is created

to mould every aspect of our lives such as in economy, politics, social,

education, culture and current issues.

As an economist, Abuya Imam Ashaari Muhammad At-Tamimi has

implemented an Islamic economic system based on a policy which is

unique and fair throughout the Al-Arqam Group of Companies. To him,

economy is the most important additional strength in the struggle to

defend the poor and the destitute people, in order to uphold justice in

the life of man.

In his opinion, the material development should be based on spiritual

development. When the spiritual self has been nurtured, the material

development will save man.

Thus, the initial step he takes is to renurture the feeling of God’s

existence in man, before putting them in the various fields of work for

material development. He wants to shape a generation whom with their

hands would rule the world but their hearts have no greed for it.

Abuya Imam Ashaari Muhammad At-Tamimi is an international

figure who actively spreads Islam and performs the community works

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through the whole world. Now darul Arqam has a chain of information

and mubaligh centres in South East Asia, Australia, New Zealand, Europe,

the United States of America, the Middle East, China, Uzbekistan, Turkey,

Japan and India.

He is confident that the Eastern world will be the main centre of

activity for the peacefulness and prosperity in the material and spiritual

aspects. His leadership has been acknowledged and accepted in the

Middle East, Uzbekistan Yunnan and other Asian countries. This is

proven when the Cheng Ho Research Foundation in Yunnan, China,

appointed him as the permanent Honorable President in 1993.

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FOR SUCH a long time, the world is devoid of love and care

which has resulted in the outbreak of several series of world

wars, wars between countries and civil wars. Even within a

family, an institution that should be the base to nurture love

and care, ‘wars’ often occur between husbands and wives and

between parents and children.

Since man has not savoured the joy of love and care for

such a long time, they have become immuned, thus they do

not consider this a problem. When in fact love and care which

is a basic natural instinct, no matter what, must be catered for.

As a result, harmony and happiness fade away day by day,

whether we realise it or not.

There are those who notice this problem and want to overcome

it, but they do not know the cause and how to solve it.

As a result, they only cure the symptoms and not the causes

to the deterioration of love and care. The bottom line is, the

entire world has lost the key of how to open the door of love

and care which has been closed for hundreds of years.

This book offers a clear formula towards bringing love and

care into existence in every single human being regardless of

ethnic group, religion and skin colour. In his sixty-fourth book,

Abuya Imam Ashaari Muhammad At-Tamimi brings the

to the world the model of a loving and caring society

through Jamaah darul Arqam which he has founded and led

for the past 26 years.

Hence this book does not attempt to present a meaningless

mental exercise to hypothesise, philosophise or theorise but to

present an idea (mind) that has been implemented in real life.

His approach is very different from what has been practised

by other leaders, writers, sociologists and psychologists who

have been discussing love and care before this.

This book should be taken seriously by all levels of the

society since the writer’s approach will truly touch the readers’

hearts until the truth is admitted by the readers’ spiritual

instinct, except those who are prejudice and have self interests. .

and condition? Why are the differences and divisions

of human beings into various ethnic groups, languages, nations,

religions, culture, skin colour and social status, separate rather

than unite the people? They are all homosapien sapiens, descendants

of Adam and Eve. Why do not these people live

together in harmony, know each other well, be communicative

and cooperative, have a sense of belonging towards each other,

be united and live like brothers and sisters? After all, their

feelings and needs are similar.

Why is there a huge obstacle that hinders communication

between the continents, so much so that it is totally cut-off?

In fact tensions, prejudices, crises and wars exist between the

continents. Why should there be an iron curtain between the

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countries which cuts off communication and makes it difficult

for the people to visit each other? In fact the people of two

neighbouring countries do not get to know each other. Instead

they tend to have conflicts and problems. To the extent that

they never realise they have many neighbours who are humane

like them.

Why is not there a sense of being in one big family among

the people in a country? Whereas they have a common leader

and the country is theirs. In fact in some countries, they are

people of the same race who share the same language, culture,

and religion. In such a case, what has happened to their sense

of belonging, which would enable them to work together?

Perhaps it does not exist at all. As a result, they lead a very

individualistic life, thus neglecting their own fellow countrymen.

Such a life is led by people who have lost the guidance to

build a united society, to work together and to help each other.

Whereas such guidance is required to develop an ideal life of

togetherness and to cater for their common interest so that

continents, countries and individuals are able to co-exist. Then

only human society will be seen to be different from that of

animals and plants. Humans are then able to live in harmony

and happiness as well as to experience universal peace and

security.

I view this matter with great concern. It is very important

that we find the right solution to this problem. And, that solution

must be precise and practical. If this world is seen like a big

house with a head leading a large family, the condition has

become truly chronic. The head seems to have lost control

over his family members. All of them could not be organised

and disciplined, neither could they be advised.

The situation is always tensed, full of crises, quarrels and

power struggles. Everyone becomes individualistic and dislikes

each other. They live together but they do not feel happy,

secure or peaceful as one family. Neither can they see the

beauty of staying together.

How do we save this situation? If it is not saved, the world

will be ruined. Man will lose his humanity and live in hell,

one that he himself creates.

I believe that there is a key that could solve this problem

and reduce its complexity. It is love and care. Man, regardless

of his race, language, religion and skin colour, wherever he

may be and whatever status he possesses in society, is born

with the instinct to love and to be loved. If he feels that he is

loved by others eventhough the person is from a different race

or religion, he will be touched by it. It makes him happy and

he finds it easy to get along with that person.

A cruel leader if showered with love by his followers or

people will become more humane and gentle. If children express

their love to a violent father, he will eventually turn soft

and gentle. .

This is the secret. He is born with the need to be loved.

This is what we call natural instinct. Love would bring continents

and countries closer to each other. It would tie men to

become brothers eventhough they come from different races

and have different languages, culture, religion, skin colour,

social status and so on.

The need to be loved and the existence of such feelings in

every man’s heart is endowed by ALLAH since the day he

was born. ALLAH who creates man on earth has provided

these feelings of love and care in every man. Man need not

learn, request or work for it. It is there in him right from the

moment he was born. This is known as instinctive feeling

which is a natural characteristic. Everybody, men and women

have it either they are a leader or follower, parent or child,

husband or wife, teacher or student regardless of their race

and religion.

With this instinctive feeling, man is actually one and equal.

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This need to be loved is a universal feeling. It puts mankind

in one single row and there is no difference between them. If

this feeling exists amongst them, they will unite and be

considerate towards each other. Thus, this is how it should be

because that is what every soul needs. It is the basic spiritual

rights of all mankind that must be fulfilled. There is no man

who does not need it. In fact, without it, man will lose his

happiness.

Children will not be happy if they do not get love from

their parents. Similarly, parents too will suffer if their children

do not love them. Students will not be happy if they do not get

love from their teachers. Likewise, teachers too would suffer

if their students do not love them. Wives like to be loved by

their husbands. While husbands would suffer if their wives do

not love them.

Leaders too, would want to be loved. So do followers,

friends and vice versa. In short, everybody needs love from

someone. It makes them happy if they are loved. Otherwise,

he will feel disappointed and empty. However, man today

seems to be the victims of unfortunate circumstances, because

they don’t get what they need most. Husbands do not get the

love they want from their wives. Wives too do not get love

from their husbands because both husbands and wives do not

know how to shower love, although love is what they need.

This is what mankind suffers throughout the world. As a

result, they become tensed, restless, emotional, frustrated and

some would even commit suicide. Eventhough he is rich, highly

know-ledgeable or highly ranked, he expects to be loved. Yet

he himself does not know how to love others. Thus, because

of that, he is not loved by others. When you hurt somebody,

others will feel hurt, too. They will lose their sympathy and

respect for you. Eventually, feelings of hatred and annoyance

will grow and worsen. Love will then totally perish.

Such is the condition of the world today. Men would live

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together in a society but they are always in conflict with each

other. Instead of love, hatred becomes the order of the society.

Life would be empty and the people would suffer. How would

we solve this problem? Where would we find a way out?

With ALLAH’s will, I will try to point out several practical

steps in giving and receiving love amongst mankind, regardless

of their race. It is hoped that we will be able to lead a life

that is beautiful, peaceful, secured and happy. Universal unity

would then ensue in this world. That is, when man from all

races and all walks of life know how to give and find love.

Insha- ALLAH.

0 ALLAH! Please grant my small effort to save the world

as you have decreed. May our life in this final era be given the

chance to savour a life attained by the people during the early

era.

Rewards from this effort if there be any, 0 ALLAH, do

convey them to all those who have done good deeds to me. .

Not to forget of course, my parents, teachers, particularly

Prophet Muhammad and Sayidi sheikh Muhammad bin Abdullah

. . .

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and cared. We would be happy if someone loves us and

we would be sad if someone hates us. That is the nature of

every people’s heart, irrespective of creed or religion. This is

what we call natural instinct. This natural instinct could not be

removed from our heart. And no heart is devoid of this instinct.

It is part and parcel of human life. It needs to be taken care

of and fulfilled like the needs to eat and drink which are

instinctive needs that cannot be ignored but must be satisfied.

Otherwise, life would be incomplete and happiness will be

gone.

To challenge our own pure instinctive needs is just like

hurting ourselves. Just like someone who rejects marriage, he

is actually going against his own instinctive needs. That is

equivalent to hurting himself. Instead, if we care for our instinctive

needs and satisfy its requirement, we have fulfilled

our responsibility towards our own selves. We would then feel

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satisfied, entertained and happy.

Someone who is loved by others would feel that his natural

instinct has been fulfilled. This makes him calm and happy.

On the other hand, if someone feels that there is no one who

loves him, and he feels everybody despises and hates him, his

heart and soul would experience emptiness so much so that he

feels life is meaningless and is pessimistic about the future.

He would suffer from dejection and humiliation. He would

feel lonely and isolated in the midst of a crowd. Life seems to

be meaningless, therefore he would rather die. If he does not

possess iman (faith), this man would normally decide to take

his own life.

Indeed, failure to fulfill one’s natural instinct would cause

psychological depression, that could lead to suicide. It could

also lead him to kill somebody. Unlike one who suffers from

physical sickness, one would still be able to bear the agony

and would persist in fighting for his life. It is a fact that we

should be particularly concerned so that we would consider

matters relating to human heart and soul with utmost importance.

Thus, its need must be fulfilled while educating and

controlling it must be given priority.

Man should not forget his responsibility to provide spiritual

nutrition to his soul. Like our physical organs, soul and

heart too needs care, food, control and spiritual enhancement.

We should not only beautify our face and body, neglecting the

heart and soul by leaving them dry and empty. As a matter of

fact, even if the care of the face is not neglected, one’s heart

and soul which are empty would cry foul and would create

many problems.

To be loved and cared is the basic need of all human beings.

In fact it is the basic right of one’s spiritual self and it gives

satisfaction. If man is not given his basic physical needs such

as food, shelter, clothing and others, he will suffer hardship

but the hardship would not drive him crazy, make him commit

suicide or kill others. Seldom has this happened that the poor

suffers mental disorder, commits suicide or resort to killing

others. But if the basic rights of one’s spiritual self is not

fulfilled, one will be spiritually impoverished and his soul

would suffer. Consequently this could lead one to suffer mental

breakdown, commit suicide or kill others. ,

We frequently hear that children who do not get the proper

attention from their parents would run away from home.

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course the answer will be different. The home full of love and

care will be coloured with happiness, joy and. beauty. The life

of each family members will be well organised and well disciplined.

Everyone performs his or her responsibility spiritedly

and effectively. We would feel comfortable in the company

of such a home.

While in a home without love and care, the situation is

apparently messy with crisis as well as with dispute and quarrel.

The situation looks listless, bored and disorganised. It lacks a

proper system and with each family member seems to work

individually and no cooperation in building a happy family.

We would be uncomfortable in such homes.

The same situation applies in the office, factory, school,

village, state, nation and the entire world. Life would surely

be different in a country where all the people shower love on

each other to that of a country where its people hated each

other.

Therefore, it is vital that we endeavour to be loved and at

the same time love others. If we are children, try to get the

love of our parents. If we were parents, make sure that our

children love us. Only then there exist in a home where parents

love their children and the children love their parents.

Again, if we are the husbands, we must make the effort so

that our wives love us. If we are the wives, we must make the

effort so that our husbands love us. If we are school teachers,

we should attempt to get the love of our students and in return

the students must attempt to love their teachers. Leaders must

attempt to make their followers love them while follower!

must find ways to make their leaders love them.

In a village or a country where the society is poly-ethnic,

each ethnic group must attempt to get the love of other ethnic

groups so that there will be national unity and peace. When

there is an effort by both parties to fulfill the instinctive needs,

in both directions, then everybody would taste happiness and

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contentment in life. With that will emerge a sense of togetherness

and an attitude to co-operate with one another. Hence,

a secured society and civilization would then be established.

insya-allah (God willing).

A true caring society surely would be most forgiving if

there are faults and mistakes among members. Each mistake

will not be exaggerated and inflated. Neither would it be a

problem. Everybody would be tolerant and there will be a lot

of give and take. In fact, each member would be even willing

to sacrifice his personal interest for the sake of others.

Within such a society, crisis and animosity would be kept

to minimum. Societal illness such as malice, suppression, backstabbing,

fraud, cruelty, prejudice, quarrelsome, war and so on

could be overcome or at least it would rarely occur. All these

are due to the existence of love and care. This is a peaceful,

prosperous and harmonious society that we have discussed

and dreamed of. In the Quran, ALLAH says:

(Sura Saba’: 15)

This is the state of the world that could be called a paradise-

there would be an opportunity for him to strive for the real

Paradise after his death. However, to strive for that Paradise

is more difficult. Nevertheless, if one could not even achieve

this transitory Paradise, there is no hope for him to get that

real Paradise in the world Hereafter.

So, let us think and endevour to achieve this transitory

paradise first. Truly, the world today is not yet a transitory

paradise but it is more of a hell. Today’s world is filled with

tales of war, murder, aggression, suppression, cruelty, ill-deeds,

immorality and vice. Goodness is minimal, love and care is

almost non-existence, whilst justice, peace, security and

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happiness have become oblivious. This is not called paradise.

Man’s soul suffers because it is not given its nutrition. But

if only the physical poverty is being the concern while impoverishment

of the soul is not solved, life will be lopsided. The

physical and spiritual no longer coincide or parallel each other.

On the surface they are interacting and they live together in

one society, but their hearts are empty, disunited and prejudiced,

habour spite, full of malice, hatred, stinginess and others. In

the Holy Quran, it is stated:

(Sura Al-Hashr: 14)

How and what must be done so that others can love us and

we also love them? What is the secret so that we can make the

effort to be loved and to love others? What are the motivation

and hopes to strive in building this society of love and care?

Hopefully you are prepared to be with me until the end of

this book so that we could explore to find the mysterious path

of life, but full of success.

People work but in a condition of force; they interact and

smile involuntarily, work involuntarily, obey instruction involuntarily.

Eventually there emerges a society where life is

full of hypocrisy as a result of a diseased heart which has

infected the social life. When people work under pressure, the

fruits of labour would be futile. Development and success is

just empty rhetoric. Everybody thinks about their own selfinterests

which are limitless until the people and society are

neglected without due attention and care. This is what is

happening now.

Realising this fact, let us struggle and sacrifice to redevelop

a life of love and care. Let us ponder why people do not love

us and why we also do not love others. Why others are angry

at us and we are angry at others?

How and what must be done so that others can love us and

we also can love others? What is the secret so that we can

attempt to love others and be loved? What are the motivation

and hopes to strive in building this society of love and care?

Hopefully you are prepared to be with me until the end of

this book so that we could explore in search of the path of life

that is mysterious but full of success. Probably we would be

burdened in obtaining these fruits, but prepare yourself because

a patient has to be willing to be operated in order to gain

the desired health.

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in every man. This feeling has spiritual value and its

place is in the heart. That is inside the soul. One of the feelings

is love.

What is the definition of the feeling of love? The feeling

of love is one’s inclination towards or deep attraction of one’s

heart towards someone else. Or love towards those other than

human beings that is other objects and species. Or a man’s

heart can also fall in love with ALLAH, but this rarely happens.

Here we would like to emphasize on love amongst mankind.

Because it is prime and important to man himself besides

loving ALLAH which is greater and more important.

Then the main focus of this book is to widely elaborate love

amongst mankind.

The presence of love or strong inclination of the heart

towards others has its own reason. That is due to the capacity

to attract and sooth one’s heart. There are various capacity of

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attractions. Some are natural and some are obligated.

Among the things that attract one’s heart towards someone

else are beauty, knowledge, leadership, virtue, blood-ties,

factors mentioned above that attracts one towards someone

else. Thus, love slowly develops until it grows deeper. When

the feeling deepened, it is called devotion. When devotion

are those who were driven into madness because of their uncontrollable

love.

With the feeling of love and care, one will pay his attention,

surrender his feelings, heart and soul to the one he loves.

He will sacrifice in many ways for his devotion. He does not

feel burdened by his effort and sacrifice, eventhough to others

it appears to be so difficult and too much. A woman is willing

to leave her family for her love towards her future husband.

She is even willing to take the risks of being looked down and

hated by her family and the society.

Likewise the causes of the development of love which are

various, thus the characteristics and effects of love are varied,

too. It depends towards whom and why love evolves. Love for

parents is not the same as love for wives. Love for children is

not the same as love for friends. Love for teachers is not the

same as love for relatives. Love for leaders is not the same as

love for followers. Love for ethnic groups is not the same as

love for wealth. Love for religion is not the same as love for

ethnic groups. Glory be to ALLAH who creates within the

envelop of the heart, feelings of love with various characteristics

and appearances!

Due to these differences in characteristics and appearances

of love, thus the effects and results of these love are different

too. There are love that last and grow in the heart. It is not

disturbed or mined by boredom and fades away, unless by

inevitable causes. However, there are love and care that are

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ruined by boredom and hatred. They do not last and in fact,

be decreased and probably would be vanished.

Love for a leader makes a follower surrender his undivided

loyalty and faith to the leader. Love for a follower makes a

leader sacrifice to render services and give love without any

self interest or feeling tired and bored.

Love for a wife makes a husband a responsible man.

Whereas love for a husband makes a wife always loyal, obedient

and caring with all her heart.

Love for a teacher makes a student keen to learn and practice

his teachings. Whereas love for students makes teachers do

not feel tired to educate and guide their students until they

succeed. Love for parents makes the children consider and

care for the parents’ feelings. Whereas love for children makes

the parents willing to do anything for them.

Those are the effects of love and care. It makes man as

though they are bonded to each other. Thus, they will give and

take towards each other voluntarily and willingly. Those who

are in love with each other will feel guilty if he or she cannot

give love and care in whatever form. Sacrificing and struggling

for the loved ones is happiness, satisfaction and entertainment.

While without love and care, sacrifices are done unwillingly

which makes it difficult and torturing for man.

A student who carries out the work given by the teacher

with a feeling of love for the teacher will carrry out the work

whole-heartedly, eagerly and happily. He does not feel bored

and tired. He will perform more than what is expected. On the

other hand, a student who has to do it under pressure, while

he hates the teacher, will carry out the work with heavy heart

and boredom. Consequently the result will not be perfect.

The same situation applies to the people towards their leader,

followers towards their leaders and vice versa. The same goes

for wives towards the husbands, children towards parents and

one towards someone else.

History has proven to us that deep love and devotion for

Rasulullah SAW by his companions and vice versa had made

them struggled and sacrificed till they had nothing left. They

were even willing to sacrifice their lives for the devotion. As

a result, within a short time, Islam became a nation and an

empire spanning three quarters of the world. Thus, it is proven

that with love, man is willing to sacrifice more time and effort

until it gives outstanding results. Whilst without love, the work

is taken lightly and the result is disappointing.

That is why we should know how to fill the space in our

heart with this devotion and feelings of love wisely. It provides

great benefits to human life. We should put the effort to

develop love and care amongst mankind so that the good fruitful

results can be savoured together.

Unfortunately, the world today is lack of love. The poor

does not love the rich, the people does not love the king or the

head of the country, the society does not love the uluma, and

in fact, also the children do not love the parents and the wives

do not love their husbands.

Hating each other has become a traditional culture that

humiliates man with every form of crises and problems amongst

them. Office staff talks behind their bosses’ back. Voters flung

abuses at their politicians, ulama were abashed by the society,

ministers were considered enemies by various levels of the

society and received negative reputation, and so forth. As such

this happens in today’s reality because they do not possess

good qualities for others to fall in love and care for one another.

Where is the love and care that creates unity? Where is the

harmony, calmness and thus satisfaction in life?

We long to see the rich love the poor and the poor return

the rich’s affection. Consequently they work harmoniously and

affably. We, too long for a leader who would give love and

care to his people and vice versa. We also yearn to see non-

Muslims love the Muslims and vice versa!

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Indeed, we would like to see the world become peaceful,

serene, harmony and prosperous with the existence of love

and care amongst mankind. Therefore, let us initiate the causes

for others to be inclined and attracted to us, even if they are

not from the same ethnic group and religion as we are, and

what’s more if they are from our own family and religion.

When every individual works towards it, thus we will love

and be loved. Hence, hopefully our dreams and longings will

come true!

The mistake that people make today is that besides letting

hatred amongst them grow, they do not make the effort to love

each other. Instead, they pay more attention to other things

and objects, forgetting the responsibilities to develop love and

care amongst mankind. They then find a way to stay further

and further away from the responsibilities, that is by diverting

their attention, love and care towards things, trees, animals,

antiques and so forth.

Objects that they adore are given special attention and kept

with utmost care. Pets are pampered, caressed and guarded to

the extent that laws are formulated so that those who hurt

animals will be prosecuted. Antiques are honoured and kept

with special care in museums and other places. The same goes

to the trees and decorating flowers, they are looked after with

extreme care and from time to time the caring feeling deepens.

Of course this is not wrong. But what is the meaning of

directing their love and care to something that does not benefit

them? Which means neglecting the basic and important responsibilities

in doing something ‘that is less important. Like

someone who serves us with various dishes, but without rice.

How would you feel? What is the meaning if trees in the

jungle are not felled, but the bodies of men are slashed and

killed?

Trees, things, antiques and animals if not given love and

attention, will not bring any negative effects on us. But chil-

dren who do not receive love and care will become a social

malice. The neglected poor who are not given sympathy will

create problems in the society. Those who are not of the same

religion and race that do not get attention and love will find

ways to pay revenge and show their annoyance. This happens

when people do not love each other, the result is so negative

and dangerous.

The world today is so much devoid of love. The situation

is too critical. Man hates each other which is the opposite of

love. As a result, they will find ways to make life difficult for

others. Everyone bears prejudice, and doubts another. The least,

they will ignore each other and are unconcerned about others.

Almost no effort is made to solve this problem. Even if there

is any, it is not effective because the method is not precise and

the effect does not last.

Based on this elaboration of love and care, I hope to provide

the practical formula to help in solving this very chronic problem.

May ALLAH helps me.

Chapter 2

E T U S F U L L Y understand the levels, sections,

types and characteristics of universal love. We would

then be able to build, guard, control and flourish the seeds of

universal love. We can relish the act of loving one another.

Universal love differs in its characteristics and its causes of

occurence. There are also differences in motivation as well as

obstruction towards universal love which could alleviate and

discard such feeling of love. Let us delve deeper into the

subject.

Universal love which sprouts from human instincts can be

divided into two:

I. Pure Instinctive Love

II. Desirous Instinctive Love

I. PURE LOVE

Firstly, let us discuss about pure love. It can be divided

into two:

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1. Natural love

Love of this type occurs because of blood relations or

lineage. Due to this blood ties between them, one is part of the

other. In reality they are one. As much as one person loves

himself he would love that part of him which he shares blood

ties with the other person.

Such love exists between parents and their children. In

which the children originate from the blood (seed) of the father

and mother. In reality the child is part of the parents. Therefore

pure natural love is established and deep-rooted in the hearts.

It exists even before the child was born. Outside factors play

no part in such love. The purity of this love surpasses any

other love affected by external factors.

Except the love towards ALLAH, whoever is able to love

ALLAH would be unchallengeable.

Besides parents and children, there is also natural love

between grandfathers, grandmothers, grandchildren, great

grandchildren and downwards. Also from the great grandchildren

to the great grandparents upwards. As the blood ties

become farther apart, the intensity of natural love diminishes.

Filial love is described as strong and firm natural love. This

is because they come from the same seed of love. However it

is different to the love between a mother and her child.

This pure and strong natural love if not bred or nursed, it

still exists in the hearts and is beyond mortal explanation. Let

alone if such love is nursed properly and disciplined. It becomes

more flourished and firm. There would be established,

great and beautiful ties of love. Each would assist the other to

accomplish their life together.

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Nevertheless, natural love could also fade and weaken if it

is frequently left to wither or be ruined. For instance, the love

of the children towards their parents would fade away if the

parents take no responsibility to care for their children or treat

them without mercy. Children, today drift further apart from

their parents and parents are not very attached to their children

because natural love is not nursed and is unjustly neglected.

Education and discipline that could nurture such love does

not exist in homes and at schools. It thus becomes like an

abandoned tree which is difficult to grow. If this is neglected,

the home as fundamental institution of the society would be

weak. It will further weaken the unity and love in a society

and nation and eventually the international world.

Besides loving our blood relations, there is love which is

less intense viz. loving our relatives, ethnic, countrymen or

villagemen. Relations between family, ethnic, villagefolk,

countrymen and others would give rise to a sense of belonging

and this nurtures natural love. But its strength is not that strong.

That’s why it can be easily severed by any constraints. For

instance, if between them they often hurt each others’ feelings

or neglect one another, then this love would be eroded. What’s

more if cruelty is being committed, not only natural love would

be totally lost but there would be hatred between one another,

and this would lead to crises and conflict.

Nevertheless if such love is nursed properly, cherished,

and processed by an educational system, in making effort to

develop its growth and motivated by a consciousness of its

significance, then it would flourish well. The stronger the motivation

the more flourish natural love would be. It may also

surpass the strength of the former natural love.

For a Muslim, the most significant motivation that would

ensure this love to be preserved and grow is faith in ALLAH.

The love between two faithful Muslims is the strongest, and

strengthens the love for each other, incomparable to other kinds

of love.

Nonetheless today, not only love because of faith does not

exist in the society, even natural love which should be there

is non-existent. Erased by its various constraints. Destroyed

by human attitudes and behaviour. We do not know why the

education system which claims to be modem and grand, does

not take into account the important subject of the soul, namely

universal love.

Consequently, a life of love and care does not exist in the

society. Nor does it exist in the school. Teachers do not love

his students and the students hate their teachers. Until there

occurs various social problems in their educational sphere.

Isn’t it awkward! A malfunction factory is left to ruin in the

hands of those claiming to be experts in that industry of men.

This is a deception and an injustice which must be protested

by all practical means!

Besides pure instinctive love since birth, there is also pure

love after adulthood. It occurs not because of blood ties, lineage

or ethnic ties but because of motivational, situational influence

or other unintended positive reasons. Due to this attraction of

love, man who all this while has no relations become cemented

with one another. The stronger the attraction, motivation or

influence, then the stronger would be the obligation of love

and care. It becomes weak or lost when the above causes no

longer exist or are prevented.

This pure obligatory love is normally caused by religious

factor, morality, virtue, a just leader, generosity of the rich,

knowledge, fluency, diligence, beauty and other special qualities.

The attraction towards such goodness which can be ob-

served in a person could bloom pure love among mankind;

Such love which has no self interest can also occur between

those of different ethnic, religion, nation or skin colour. While

natural love does not exist between those of different ethnic,

nation or religion.

For the sake of global unity, such obligatory love must be

put into effort and must be programmed into practice. It occurs

between husbands and wives when they are attracted to one

another because of the special qualities each has. It could also

occur between neighbours who always assist one another. It

can also occur between the rich and poor who portray good

attributes to one another. It could also exist between leaders

and his subjects, within an ethnic or religious group or between

different ethnic, nation or religious groupings.

It covers a wide scope, encompassing the whole mankind.

For instance, the inhabitants of the United States would fall in

love and be attracted towards all Malaysian citizens, if it is

known and proven that Malaysians are good and like to be in

good terms with the Americans. Such could be an example;

but this love would be vanished spontaneously if it is known

that Malaysians have bad intentions towards Americans.

Such is the characteristic of obligatory love. The pure love

between husbands and wives could vanish when good manners

between them are neglected. Neighbours would feel hatred

towards one another when each of them begins to rake up

their deeds and assistance that they have given. The love

towards the destitute could be lost when the destitute person

becomes comfortable after being given assistance and begins

to be arrogant.

That is the disease of today’s society. The love and care

which has been fostered falls apart when one does not know

or is incapable of maintaining it. Pure love would vanish,

what is left is desirous love, full of self-interest. No one likes

such deceptive love. Thus we must preserve this pure love.

Everybody must ensure and attempt to maintain and strive so

that this love does not vanish. Fulfilling our basic spiritual

rights and that of others is an essential responsibility If such

basic spiritual needs are not fulfilled then every human would

have to face the consequences and risks that would endanger

their lives.

II. DESIROUS LOVE

Unlike pure love, desirous love is ugly in nature because it

breeds from personal interests. Because of some vested worldly

interest or delight, the desirous love blooms. This love does

not evolve from a sincere heart; it is characterised by hypocrisy

and temporal. A man or woman could fall in love with someone

they like, does so to fulfil their desire. Love will vanish when

the desire has been quenched or the cause of such responses

no longer exists.

A friend loves another because he hopes that his friend

would assist him. When no help is received, love would be

lost. Politicians love one another hoping that the other would

defend their political career. When they have been defended

or they do not receive any support, love would also be lost.

An employee would give love towards his employer, hoping

for a higher pay or position. When he gets it or is totally

denied then such love would vanish.

Those are some examples of desirous love. At a glance it

seems natural but of evil intention and is caused by external

factors.

The source of such desirous love is the response to beauty,

seduction of female or male which feeds on lust. It is not

wrong if it occurs between husbands and wives. A couple

whose relationship is tied only by desirous love would not last

long.

Other factors which could cause the growth of such love

are cravings for wealth of the rich by the poor and the desire

to obtain a higher position of the upper stratum by the underclass.

Or the desire to enslave the poor by the rich or to exploit

the under-class by the upper echelon of the society. Love seems

to exist but the reality is, such love is full of deceit. That is

desirous love.

Because of its bad characteristics, desirous love could not

unite men, instead it could disunite them. That is why it cannot

be motivated but needs to be controlled and disciplined.

Many people have been deceived or ruined by such desirous

love. In today’s world, such desirous love is left unconcerned

and was not monitored prominently or so cherished

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